In “A Tale of Three Coming Out Stories” Roxane Gay posits that, in terms of sexual orientation, access to privacy is a privilege that only heterosexual are afforded. She says that heterosexual people “can date, marry, and love whom they choose without needing to disclose much of anything. If they do choose to disclose, they are rarely negative consequences” (163).  Their life choices are rarely scrutinized in the public eye because they fit into what is deemed as the social norm. The backlash that homosexual people face when they come out makes it all the more difficult (hate crimes, loss of rights and privileges from the government, and alienation from the public). Although the common norm among members of society dictate that homosexuals are subjected to these shortcomings, Gay elucidates the more ethically favorable option to allow equal rights despite peoples’ sexual orientations.

By Zahra Morgan and Yooseob  Jung


  1. This is a well written paragraph and clearly outlines Gay’s views of privacy with regards to the LGBTQ+ community. The use of the direct quotation also reminds the reader of Gay’s exact words, but perhaps it could be a shorter reference, or maybe you could paraphrase the quotation slightly.
    – Insiya

  2. I liked this paragraph as well, although Gay cited some specific examples of some of the “backlash” you talk about (namely bullying in schools), so including that specific information could make it even stronger–it’s strong as it is now, though!

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