(Would you like some mate tea?)
by Aberdeen, Tufts 1+4 Participant
Would you let a frazzled stranger into your house if they asked to use your electricity to charge their phone? Would you feel comfortable sharing tea with an unknown amount of others that used the same straw? Would you invite a foreign stranger to a family cookout after only knowing them for about five minutes? If you’re Brazilian, you may have answered yes to these questions without pause. The generosity and pure interest in helping others that I’ve experienced in my travels of Brazil has been astonishing. Others’ well-being and happiness are always put before one’s own interests. It is true that Brazilians share everything. Apples, blankets, cars, stories, surfboards, clothes, advice. Families that seemingly have so little to give, give so much. Every day I am reminded of how kind people can be. The people I meet are well aware they may never see me again, but they ask for nothing in return for their generosity.
I am welcomed with open arms everywhere I travel in Brazil and all I can hope is to bring this love with me wherever I go. In light of recent global events, all I wish is for everyone to treat others the way I’ve been treated here. In delving into a new culture, a new life, a new country, I’ve been stripped of any confidence, communication abilities, and way of life that I’ve built for the past eighteen years. I was made vulnerable and forced to start over again. Thank goodness I was surrounded by Brazilians.
When asked to report on something important that I’ve encountered this bridge year, the pure kindness of the people I’ve met is what I choose to discuss. It isn’t the difference in food. It isn’t that one time a three foot long lizard casually emerged from the bushes behind me and flicked his tongue at me in distaste. It isn’t a story of how two surfers saved me from a stray dog that targeted me as his prey. It’s a human behavior that shouldn’t even be shocking to me. I want to contribute to a world where it isn’t odd to see unfiltered love. This is what I was looking for when I decided to take a year abroad before college. I knew there were lessons to life that I needed to grapple with before even thinking about calculus.
For those reading in hopes of learning about what us 1+4 kids are up to this year, this is it. I am learning how to live, not just exist. I had visions of returning from this year with more “direction”, e.g., an answer to the looming question “What do I want to study at college?”, and I don’t think I’ll return with that question answered. I’m now okay with unanswered questions. Anyone who knew me well three months ago may not believe this, but it’s true. These three months have changed me. I can’t wait to see what I can do with eight.
Love can change the world!!!
A great lesson for you and for the rest of us. Thanks for sharing your explorations and discoveries.